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We here at Scary Mommy are all-too-aware of how our sex drives change as we age, from lower libidos (thanks perimenopause!) to the toll familiarity can take on relationships. Instead of being scared of it, we embrace it. In our fourth annual Sex Issue, we celebrate how our sex lives have changed -- whether we're evolving in our desires or to trying to navigate how to get in the mood now. Welcome to sex, Scary Mommy-style.

sparks can still fly

How To Have Spontaneous Sex When Your Partner Has ED

And why you might not want to make spontaneity your only goal.

spicy reads

Smut Books To Read When You Want To Get Hot But You're Too Lazy To Have Sex

For when you just need to get there, damn it.

knows what she wants

Is Midlife Sex The Best Sex?

You’re no longer touched out by hours of childcare. Bring it.

change of approach

Why Feeling "Desired" Changes With Age, & How That Affects Our Sex Lives

Age reshapes our bodies and how we see ourselves, but experts say that doesn’t have to mean the end of intimacy or desire.

Stress ⬆️ Libido ⬇️

Sorry, How TF Are We Supposed To Get Turned On Anymore?

It’s hard to get it up when I can hear democracy crumbling over the sheets rustling.